Alone can be literally alone, but can also be having the feeling of being alone most of the time.
Single on-the-other-hand can mean that you’re just not in a committed relationship.
When you’re not in a committed relationship and you feel alone… well, that can be very lonely.
Being and feeling alone can be quite emotional, since humans in general are somewhat hard-wired to be social creatures for obvious reasons, like continuing our species through breeding.
You may also find yourself consciously fighting negative non-truths, like: “Am I relationship-worthy?”, “Does anyone really want me or just what they can get from me?”, “Do they really not have time for me?” and many others.
Anyone who leaves you is helping you learn how to stand stronger on your own.
Maybe you consider yourself a shy person or social awkward. It can feel like a enormous and courageous effort every time you try to join a new community or try to get to know someone. But, even introverts can act like extroverts with moments of witty conversations, playful and charming vibrance… just with more effort than an extrovert.
In the end, an introvert must retreat to regroup and recharge… and if there’s any discomfort, hurt, tension or just a sense of uneasiness… it makes it that much harder to get back out there.
With isolation comes reflection.
With self-reflection can come progress.
With self-progress can come confidence.
With self-confidence can come safety.
Even if you are alone (and feel alone) you can become a better person and a happier person.
Anything that is beyond our control teaches us about the power of surrendering.
You never need someone else to be happy… you might think that’s true… but, there seems to always be a way to find happiness time-and-time again, even without someone else there.
Have an intention.
When you say yes to others, make sure you are not saying no to yourself.
Appreciate smells, textures, tastes, beauty and touch.
Focus only on what adds to your happiness.
Embrace the unexpected, wherever it shall arise.
Be open to the unknown and let it in when you feel it’s time.
“Failure taught me things about myself that I could have learned no other way,” ~J.K. Rowling