Raising a confident, intelligent, athletic and respectful child is perhaps the primary goals of every dedicated parent. As most of us would agree, that is far easier said than done.
Balancing discipline with at least equal parts of love, is possibly the primary goal of a parent for themselves.
Nurturing is also about helping children get in touch with they value they posses and that their ideas are good, so they can be free to be creative and build confidence from within themselves.
Helpful parental engagement starts with collaboration and; teaching children how to learn and think.
If you don’t help teach your children how to embrace the natural consequences of life, then they will no doubt have more learning to do in that regard and may fall harder after life’s many difficult lessons.
Often memorization, learning and discovery is a lot of perspective-thinking, finding correlation and seeing interrelated aspects. So much so that a math genius may have colors, textures and emotions that correlate with various numbers. This empathetic connection we can develop with abstract or otherwise meaningless information and knowledge can aid our ability to work, learn and play.
No teacher will ever be as great as your own questions to yourself.
Teach your children to come up with their own questions.
Brain development without “Why?” is essentially temporary information storage.
Computers will always be far better at information storage and linear computation.
When your child asks why, you have a few choices…
- You can defer the question, which is becoming more and more common with the proliferation of the internet and our increasingly busy lives. This is when you say something like: “go ask so and so”, “why don’t you look it up”, “just because” or simply “I’m not sure”.
- You can directly answer the question whether you offer a summarization or a fully detailed explanation of every intricacy. Either way, this effort has a tendency to go in one ear and out the other without significant repetition. But, you can explain the why around whatever is related to what they are asking about, so that they don’t just get their answer, but also learn about the context of what they are asking about, which can sometimes make things more memorable and meaningful.
- You can teach them about what questions to ask themselves to reach the answer they seek. You can teach them the process of elimination, logic and critical thinking. This method should be collaborative with an abundance of patience and loving prompting. Learning how to collaborate effectively is arguably one of the most valuable life skills a person can learn.
But, every child is different as every person is different… so learn how to teach and teach how to learn.
Teach until your student can create and then learn from your student… learn what you need to teach them.
As important as ingesting, digesting, filtering, synthesizing and processing information is… it can be just as important to stop and focus on a single bit of information. Never underestimate the power of focus.