True happiness is a state that you choose to be, as you continue to change the world around you to support your happiness. You attract and magnetize what is similar to you. Your attitude and behavior can have a great influence on others around you and usually results in what types of situations and life experiences come your way.
Since happiness is an ever-changing subjective semi-ambiguous state of being…
- First, you must be the person you want to be, walk and talk in the shoes that feel like they are the closest fit and the most comfortable.
- Secondly, start doing and keep doing what feels like bring you the most happiest and remember to do things as the person you want to be, do things that are in alignment with the person you want to be.
- Thirdly, appreciate the things you have and every time you think you want to have something, be sure to get clear on what having that something would bring into yourself. If you have time, try to visualize that something already in your life and think about the ways that it would affect your life and the things you already have.
“There is no way to happiness — happiness is the way.” — Thich Nhat Hanh
You take a minute for a calm break from work and start perusing a popular online social media website… then you come across an image of the most unjust and disturbing example of human treatment you’ve ever seen… you feverishly share to all your family, friends, patrons, followers and anyone else who comes across what you want everyone to immediately be aware of.
Marketing 101… most large social media companies that have done their research, would rather you see disturbing outrageous anger-provoking images and posts… vs. seeing cute helpful calm rejuvenating peaceful images and posts.
Alone can be literally alone, but can also be having the feeling of being alone most of the time.
Single on-the-other-hand can mean that you’re just not in a committed relationship.
When you’re not in a committed relationship and you feel alone… well, that can be very lonely.
Being and feeling alone can be quite emotional, since humans in general are somewhat hard-wired to be social creatures for obvious reasons, like continuing our species through breeding.
You may also find yourself consciously fighting negative non-truths, like: “Am I relationship-worthy?”, “Does anyone really want me or just what they can get from me?”, “Do they really not have time for me?” and many others.
Anyone who leaves you is helping you learn how to stand stronger on your own.
If you are happy, then you may be successful or not… but, chances are that if you are continually happy then you have achieved some level of success and the inevitable subsequent adaption will come a knocking. Many psychologists believe that we are hardwired to crave change, so at some point, even when we get all we thought we ever wanted… people usually find themselves wanting more. They usually want something new, different, better, faster, shinier, etc.
“One of the enemies of happiness is adaptation” ~Dr. Thomas Gilovich