Being the best you may seem impossible or a fairytale, since all the parts of you may not seem like even close to the best parts (to put it mildly.)
The best you will always be you doing your best.
What you do best, may not always allow you to be you at your best.
You at your best is not a destination, it is a winding path towards what’s in your heart.
Loving you at your best, is not loving what you do or accomplish, but loving who you are and where your mind, heart and spirit are. Becoming the best version of yourself does not require anything around you to change and only consists of you becoming the best you, you can be.
At the most basic level of why we do what we do… we are all motivated by love.
We are social beings at are core and even if we are hardcore homebodies there is still a intrinsic part of ourselves that was nurtured and wants to be nurtured… and in turn wants to nurture or give something.
That being said, many (if not most), operate in a mode of extrinsic motivate, be it fear or reward… which is far less powerful than an intrinsic motivation of love and contribution. The employee that gets enough to cover the bills and have a little fun whom is motivated by reward, looks forward to getting off work to go play. But, the employee that believes in what they do and feel like they are perhaps making the world a better place, could find themselves working long past the standard work day to go above and beyond.
If nothing else we can be remembered by the sum of our contributions to humanity.
You don’t need to (and probably will never) understand “how” to achieve your dreams. The how comes from the why. What you need is to believe it enough that it becomes part of you and then your path of progress will be in alignment with the path to achieve that dream.
Dream big and dream bold, for a dream that doesn’t involve dreaming beyond what is based in your current reality, isn’t really a dream.
“Give me six hours to chop down a tree and I will spend the first four sharpening the axe.” —Abraham Lincoln
Nothing is perfectly perfect, for perfectness is not absolute in its perfection.
Perfect love casts out fear and false belief.
Perfect love has no punishment.
Perfect love is eternal nurturing.
Perfect love is loving all that is your perfect imperfect life.
Perfect love is the maturity to overcome resistance to life challenges, despite what we think is best for us.
So what would your life look like if you could just follow your heart? You no longer had to trade your time for money, all your income was passive or recurring. Maybe you have the same amount coming in passively, as you might have now with an active earned income doing a job… Or, maybe you have tens of thousands coming in per month so that you can have enough to do and go where your heart takes you.
It maybe a hard scenario to imagine, since about 99% of us around the world do a direct swap for time for money, but for some, including you this is a very realistic life style and considering what you want to do versus only thinking about what you need to do, can open your mind to finding ways to eventually turn your life into what you want it to be.
May we all communicate with love.
May we all try to learn before we assume.
May we all seek understanding before we judge.
May we all feel empathy before we hurt someone.
May we all take the time to think before we speak out.
Many people will tell you that you should always be reading at least a few books; one on business/work/finance, one on life/family/relationships and one on spirituality/religion/inspiration. A practice that could theoretically help you grow in all aspects of your life and become a better person.
Now what if the people you have relationships with had the same desire to aspire to become a better person, reading these books alongside you and perhaps even going to retreats, workshops, conventions or other related events.
What if your life partner was in pursuit of the same relationship nirvana, emotional intelligence and relationship health as you are? But, not in a “because I have to” sort of way, but from a deep intrinsic desire and wantingness. If you are just doing something because you read it, it can come off as lackluster, inauthentic, contrived and fleeting. The other person may even subconsciously pick up on the inauthenticity and reject your efforts.
Love from love for love.
“Be patient with yourself. Self-growth is tender, it’s holy ground. There’s no greater investment” — Stephen Covey
Because the relationships in your life include you, they are a partial reflection of yourself, so in order to improve your relationships, you must improve yourself.
Become the person who can have the type of amazing relationship that you desire in your life and set an intention inside of yourself for attracting the other part of that relationship.
The elements of the relationship instruction manual are:
- Your Love — The humblest and most powerful force in the universe that makes the impossible possible.
- Your Attention — Possibly the most valuable currency you will ever get the privilege of spending.
- Your Intuition — A sacred gift that can trust to guide you and bring you to what you truly seek in life.
- Your Integrity — What keeps you true to yourself, because if you lose yourself, then you aren’t really you.
You take a minute for a calm break from work and start perusing a popular online social media website… then you come across an image of the most unjust and disturbing example of human treatment you’ve ever seen… you feverishly share to all your family, friends, patrons, followers and anyone else who comes across what you want everyone to immediately be aware of.
Marketing 101… most large social media companies that have done their research, would rather you see disturbing outrageous anger-provoking images and posts… vs. seeing cute helpful calm rejuvenating peaceful images and posts.
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