Many people will tell you that you should always be reading at least a few books; one on business/work/finance, one on life/family/relationships and one on spirituality/religion/inspiration. A practice that could theoretically help you grow in all aspects of your life and become a better person.
Now what if the people you have relationships with had the same desire to aspire to become a better person, reading these books alongside you and perhaps even going to retreats, workshops, conventions or other related events.
What if your life partner was in pursuit of the same relationship nirvana, emotional intelligence and relationship health as you are? But, not in a “because I have to” sort of way, but from a deep intrinsic desire and wantingness. If you are just doing something because you read it, it can come off as lackluster, inauthentic, contrived and fleeting. The other person may even subconsciously pick up on the inauthenticity and reject your efforts.
Love from love for love.
“Be patient with yourself. Self-growth is tender, it’s holy ground. There’s no greater investment” — Stephen Covey
Be consistent with who you are, real change from within is slow and deliberate.
Conversation communication is a skill and should be studied… we are definitely not born talking.
Communicating vulnerably and learning to resolve conflict or neutralize situations are skills that require practice.
At their essence, relationships are about feeling love, connecting and meeting each other’s needs.
Recommended reading on relationships and life:
- The Sacred Search, by Gary Thomas
- The Proper Care and Feeding of Husbands, by Dr. Laura Schlessinger
- Love & Respect: The Love She Most Desires; The Respect He Desperately Needs, by Dr. Emerson Eggerichs
- The Life-Changing Magic of Tidying Up: The Japanese Art of Decluttering and Organizing, by Marie Kondō
- The Subtle Art of Not Giving a F*ck: A Counterintuitive Approach to Living a Good Life, by Mark Manson
- The 5 Elements of Effective Thinking, by Edward B. Burger
- The 10X Rule, by Grant Cardone
- Flow: The Psychology of Optimal Experience, by Mihaly Csikszentmihalyi
- The 7 Habits of Highly Successful People, by Stephen Covey
- The Rise of Superman: Decoding the Science of Ultimate Human Performance, by Steven Kotler
- How Will You Measure Your Life?, by Clayton M. Christensen
- Mindfulness: An Eight-Week Plan for Finding Peace in a Frantic World, by Mark Williams
More books to be listed soon…